Why Not Trust You

What’s lovely family…

I hope you’re keeping your spiritual, mental, and physical well during this pandemic. I can’t stress how important this is, because there will be life after this; a new normal of sorts, that you have to be present for. All in 2020 is not lost.

In my last blog posting I challenged you to check-in with yourself. To take time to simply get the conversation started with YOU. How did it go? Don’t worry you’re not alone, I’m engaging in this practice too. I’ve been submerged in a master leadership class the past two evenings, which has challenged me to take it back to my childhood. Chavaun the only child, that would retreat to my room and listen to music for hours (not all appropriate. Y’all remember the 90s..lol) The little girl introvert that preferred a quiet evening at home, instead of attending a Girl Scout meeting. The insightful young girl that was deemed wise enough to be the advice giver among her crew. Or ‘tall for her age’ teenage Chavaun that lied about her age when an older teenage boy showed interest. Why did I do that!?!?! I’ve been excavating how I conducted myself as a child and discovering what comes to me innately. Recalling what events shaped my responses and ideas. This practice is quite insightful.

If it’s still awkward for some let me drop this food for thought. I was talking with my husband; Terry, last week and it was confirmed for me just this week that there are some people that occupy roles or in leadership positions that lack self-awareness. Can you imagine how frightening this is? A young mother now responsible for leading a new life, and her life has truly just begun after graduating high school. Or what about the young Christian couple that is feeling pressured to marry, while hearing a broken record on repeat, “It’s better to marry than to burn” (Oh! We’re going there in this blog, because I still take issue with sexuality still being a taboo topic of discussion among believers. I digress). The focus is placed on quenching their “burning lust”, instead of preparing them to occupy the role of husband and wife; leaders of their own household, or giving them the space and time for discovery. If you aren’t aware of your quirks, likes/dislikes, dreams, passions, or aspirations that contribute to your vision, then how are you fit to lead anyone else? In the absence of these components it would be rather difficult to trust yourself. But all is not lost. Start from where you are. Self-awareness is a vital component on your life’s journey. It sets the tone for your decision-making and secures the trust you need to have in you! WHY NOT TRUST YOU? You are the CEO of you. Get into it!

Steps on building trust in you:

1. Forgive yourself. Physically get in the mirror and apologize to you for whatever your decision-making has been. Learn from it all.

2. Get to know yourself. Assess how you handled past and present situations. Learn from your responses and highlight what you value about yourself.

3. Celebrate yourself. Rather big, small, success, or failure celebrate you on a regular basis.

4. Don’t be afraid to LIVE! Start that business. Invest in that stock. Open the art gallery. Success is not guaranteed until you try the strategy to obtain it. You don’t know until you try. And if you fail, then reflect, reconstruct and re-engage.

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